Steps to take when you want to end a relationship with your significant other
Love and love forever! This is a phrase that would be ultimate, if it were true in all relationships. However, sometimes we find ourselves with a partner with whom we are not able to connect anymore. This could be because our ways have parted or we have developed other interests. It could also be because when we started out together we were very much in love no doubt, but it was a phase and that phase is over! For one reason or the other, we are agonising over how to end the relationship. There are some people who just go missing and avoid the other person because they simply do not know how to break up graciously. Well, the relationship involves both of you. Hence, it is only respectful that you end it in a decent manner. Here are some helpful hints on what you can do to end your relationship in a better fashion.
Signs that you are still not over your ex
Break ups are never easy and it can be very hard for some people to simply move on. You need not be in an extended relationship for the break up to hurt you. In fact, it does not mean that you do not love your ex after the break up. It could have been that the break up was inevitable, for whatever reason. It may just have been better that you broke up rather than start hating each other. However, the problem creeps in when you are not able to get over your ex, after you break up. You can assess whether you are struggling to get over your ex. Just follow some of the pointers over here and assess whether these are saying anything about you.
Sign 1 – You keep in touch with your ex
You have your ex’s number in your mobile and even have him/her on speed dial. You frequent places that your ex frequents in the hope of running into him/her. You message your ex, be it personal or forwarded messages. You just find some ways where you will be visible to your ex.
Sign 2 – You date or mingle with people who remind you of your ex
This is another sign which tells you that you are still not over your ex. You may gear up and meet new people. However, you keep comparing them to your ex and only agree to date those who are either looking like your ex or share the same name or interest as your ex.
Sign 3 – You buy things that reminds you of your ex
This is a quite common thing. It could be out of habit or it could also state that you miss your ex immensely. Hence, you end up buying your ex’s favourite snacks or favourite cologne. You could even end up cooking something your ex fancies. This is yet another sign that you are not over your ex.
Sign 5 – You listen to music that reminds you of your times together
Music provides solace to our mind and soul. However, if you are not over your ex, chances are that you will be listening to sad songs or romantic songs that both of you used to listen together, which is going to add to your stress. You could end up crying your heart out listening to the sad or romantic songs. If you are doing this, you are still not over your ex.
Sign 6 – You keep memorabilia that reminds you of your ex
Photographs, videos, presents, cards, love messages etc are all memorabilia of your ex. If you are holding on to it like dear life, you are seriously not over your ex. A tip here though; if you want to start forgetting your ex, you need to slowly get rid of such memorabilia. Either throw them away or burn them. Seeing the memorabilia disappear will help you put your ex out of your mind and ultimately, out of your life.
In conclusion, break ups are sometimes necessary and can be painful as well. However, you need to move on in life. Either you forget your ex and move on or you accept your mistakes and get back together. You can never achieve anything by being miserable.
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Should you date your friend’s ex?
Dating your friend’s ex is entirely your personal choice and only you can make a decision whether you should or should not date your friend’s ex. However, it pays to note a few things, and weigh the pros and cons before you start seeing your friend’s ex.
Things to analyse before you start dating your friend’s ex.
Firstly, you need to analyse the relationship you share with your friend whose ex you are contemplating to date. If the friend is very close to you, you seriously have to think what you are going to gain or lose from a possible relationship with your friend’s ex.
Next you need to understand the nature of relationship your friend shared with his/ her ex. This will help you understand why that relationship did not work out. It could be because the expectations of your friend and the ex did not match, which ended the relationship. It could also shed light on the type of person the ex is; the ex could be hot-tempered or of suspicious mentality, which led to problems in the relationship and thus, ended it. Whatever the reason may be, you need to know so that you do not risk an avoidable situation.
Perfect date or Speed date – A boon for those running short of time
Most of us are educated and have a high flying career. If not, we are still employed, and have deadlines to meet and errands to run. The economic conditions do not permit us to stay at home or take life easy. We need to be competing, we need to be on top of the things we are doing. Hence, many of us do not find the time for romantic ventures. Love at first sight or a lasting relationship is not at all our forte. Such is the situation that many of us are faced with being single. Many of us are over 30, still unmarried and worst still, not having a romantic relationship. Speed dating concept is a boon for such lonely souls.
Concept of speed dating
Speed dating is a bulk concept where you register with a dating agency and they help you find the best possible match in the fastest possible time. It’s like multiple dating actually. Once registered with the dating agency, a group of likeminded or matched profiles would be called in for a speed dating session. The prospective candidates will be seated in a manner where maximum interaction is possible and time is allocated for each individual dating prospect to meet other likeminded dating prospects who have matching profiles.
Rules of speed dating
The rules are simple. Each prospect meets up with another prospect and they date. Talking about their personal characteristics and aspirations, and what they are looking for in their partners. Each prospect has a chance to voice opinion and to get to know each other in the allotted time. Once the time is up, the dating prospects change partners and start a fresh conversation again. The specifics are that you must complete the speed dating session and cannot leave halfway when you think you have found a person you can interact with, and want to know more about. You must complete meeting the other prospects. No contact information should be shared during the session. Also, the prospect you are interested in should also be interested in you in order for the process to continue.
Advantages of speed dating
In a round table approach of speed dating, where you rotate and meet each and every other matching date, you are exposing yourself to a lot of choices and different personalities. Each prospect gets to meet more than one person in a single dating session. This is what speed dating is all about – get the maximum interaction in the shortest and fastest possible time. Through this, you will be able to find a spark somewhere and you may want to take your conversation further.
Another advantage is that if you do not like someone, you do not have to dread the dating session and wait for it to get over like you do in a normal dating scene. You can look forward to the next person you will meet.
Disadvantages of speed dating
You are meeting so many people at the same time. It can get quite confusing, as well as tiring. It could well be a waste of time if you do not find anybody you are interested to know more about. Also, it could be a heart breaking or sad episode if the person you want to know more about, is not interested in you.
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In conclusion, speed dating has its advantages and disadvantages. However, it is actually a good tool which allows people, who do not have sufficient time to build a relationship, to start somewhere. If you are not in a position to meet the life partner of your choice by frequenting parties or other areas of interest, speed dating service will allow you to meet similar singles. This way, you have more chances of finding the right person.
Dating issues faced by today’s women and how to solve them
In our society, more and more women are well educated and have careers. Even if they are not in a high flying career, they are working jobs that give them enough means to support themselves. In other words, women today are much more independent than they were ever before. This independence is good for women, but is also creating a problem for the society.
The problem
In order for the world to exist and flourish, a relationship between a man and women is necessary and a family caters to that very special need. While women are becoming more and more career oriented, family and children are taking a back seat. There is just no time for dating. This phenomenon is yet to reach its peak. However, it is likely that sometime in the near future, we will be seeing more and more women entering this mode of living, which can endanger the society at large.