The Basics of Dating Simplified
we all have had one of those anxious moments in dating. It can be a true nerve wrecking event that we encounter the person we flutter over and at the same time one of the most promising events of our lives. Let’s see if we can make this as less overwhelming as possible by looking at it in another perspective. Let’s try and look well beyond that first date and even further beyond that part of dating in the future, per se.
When you decide to ask someone on a date, it is very important to know what that person likes and dislikes. Let’s say you plan a hike in the mountains or backpacking, but your prospective date enjoys more of an evening outing "stroll" as opposed to a daytime "hike". Who is to say that the day you may be planning in the "great outdoors" is just too stressful for your counterpart and they faint from over doing it. This could ruin the entire dating experience so I would suggest that if you would like to surprise them with a surprise date, I would at least find out what they are "into". Like you could ask them "do you like the natural outdoor settings?", "do you like the lake?", "do you enjoy picnics or indoor snacks?” etc. Thus, giving you an idea of what to plan for your dating experience as well as making it enjoyable and relaxing for both of you.
Remember what your mother always told you about "good hygiene?" Take a nice relaxing bath or shower using your favorite fragrant soaps, shave, pick out a nice outfit to wear before dating. Spray some cologne or aftershave, not too much, you never know about allergic reactions with people until you get to know them better, and over doing it on smells can be a bit overwhelming sometimes. Also keep in mind that dating is about both of you, so keep it kind of simple.
Do not rush and get too excited about the new meeting and venture out. Remember to brush those teeth and also floss before any dating experience. This is important on a daily basis, but you may be excited and over anxious to get going so remember to do it. Using mouth washes and taking along breath mints is also a good idea. Your date may even ask to have a mint as well, if they forgot, or just out of kindness. Dating is always a mystery.
Make sure you give them a hint of what type of clothing to wear and wear the proper clothing yourself. Let’s say you are doing on the date to the beach, well, shorts or lighter clothing or even bring with you your swim suits. Put the suit and tie away for another day. Also, make sure you don’t choose one of your swim suits that are too revealing, don’t flaunt it.
Timeliness is important, like anything being on time is suggested. It is rude to be late when you are expected somewhere but try not to be too early either, you could look eager. Being on time makes you look courteous, responsible and having good manners. Being on time is not only important while dating, it is important in everyday routines and this will show them that you are a timely person.
Make sure you are not conceited and talk only about yourself. Ask them politely without seeming nosey about their interests and likes as well. This can help them to relax and open up and get the conversations flowing. Use this idea; the questions you would ask them are the questions you could answer yourself. Make them simple and open so they can answer the way they feel comfortable with, don’t get too personal. Try and avoid the questions that require only a "yes" or "no" because these can cause slight awkward moments of silences.
And don’t forget to smile. This helps to show them that you are also having an enjoyable time with the dating experience, yourself. Helping them relax and open up more and tend to talk and converse. Getting to know each other better and sharing details of one’s life. This is truly the dating experience, especially on the first date. Hopefully your date will be smiling too, showing that they too are having a good time on the date and relaxing. The sincere of smiles can actually help compensate if you encounter a natural moment of silence.
When you are leaving after your date has ended, thank them. No matter if you were the person who asked or was asked out on the date, thank them, it is a show of good manners and is polite as well. Also have them home on time, the specified time you told them that you would have them back because this will help show them that you truly think that their own personal time is important as well.
By time the date is over you should already have some sort of idea if you should ask them out on another date again or "call this dating experience quits" and say it is a decent night out and that was that. But if you feel your dating experience went well and you both enjoyed your time together on the date, it is okay to hint that you would like to go dating again. However, some dating experiences just do not work out, so if you don’t feel this is for you and you really have no intentions of going out again, don’t act like you do. By doing this and actually acting like you had a good time and you did not, it can hurt the other person’s feelings if they were thinking the date went well. So try not to break any hearts along your dating way.
